i think i'm ready to tell the zone a bit more about me...

[no2lurch]

this may seem an odd post, but i feel that i am ready now...

on May 22nd this year my wife and i lost our son- Nathan. he was still born at 40 wks +5 days.

he was our first baby and loosing him was the biggest shock of our lives and the hole left will never be filled.

i had a tattoo done a few months ago, and this sunday just gone, i had it added to.

i just wanted to let people know as i am sure i will mention nathan in the future, and also, its surprising how many people go thoguht the same sort of thing, but dont ever mention it.

i think it looks wicked. the hand prints are exact copies of the prints taken by the hospital... the top half will look the same as the bottm once its all healed up...

[zimmer-320i]

That does look realy good, im not sure how to say im sorry with out sounding bad, but i have experenced such and it is hard, and im sure he is beening looked after,

[tha_lick]

hello Neil,

really feel for you mate, i cant imagine how hard it must be for you and your wife.

my brother and sister inlaw lost their to be second child the same way and although the baby wasnt born, we all still were so attached.

its really nice you got your tattoo done and it means something to you.

speak to you soon mate


Sonny

[dazleeds]

the tat looks great fella, really nice tribute

went through the same thing many years ago so no exactly how your felling, feel for you both
as said its a very hard thing to cope with but stay strong and cherish the memories
it does get easier as the years pass and he will be forever in your heart.

take care

Daz

[no1_jazz]

Hi there Neil i feel for you my man,

all i can say im sorry to here such a thing,

all the best to you and your wife

God Bless

[d6dph]

A great tattoo and personally it's what I believe tattoos are all about. Marking something significant.

Very sorry to hear of your loss.

[Nay]

Very sorry to hear that mate.

[stevotheevo]

a great looking tatoo mate, and a fine tribute to your son.

although iv'e never been through such a tragedy myself, i cant imagine how i'd feel if i lost my boy.

all the best to you and your wife.

[B7]

With a very precious only daughter I can only start to think of what you and your wife are going through. Words would never be enough to describe the pain.

I'm not a fan os tattoos but if ever there was reason to have one, you've got it here. A really nice tribute and remider.

[Rav335uk]

Just seen this, and would like to say how sorry my wife and I are.Our thoughts are with u.

[Daryll]

Neil, always think of you when I see the snugglepie sigs. Must of been a hell of a time and no doubt it will take a long time to come to terms with. My thoughts & prayers are with you & your family.

[jaistanley]

I recently lost my girlfriend of 6 years. We'd been apart for a while but were just reconciling when she died in a low speed car crash. I'd been lucky enough to never have lost anyone as close before. I'm really not a tatoo man but recently the idea has occurred to me to get something that meant something to the pair of us. Something to carry on my skin to remind me of the times we spent together.

My condolences to yourself and your other half, I hope life is moving forward for you now.

[chisel]

My heart goes out to you dude. God bless!

[jbh]

my thoughts are with you and your partner and hope the 2 of yous stay strong for each other and pull through this together. i know from previous experience how hard it is to loose a child so young my heart fells for yous.
i would never say it gets easier we just learn how to deal with it better through time and i hope that time comes for yous soon

James

[fuzzy]

im usually the biggest slater of tattoos but in this sort of case there is a point and it does serve a purpose.
sorry to hear of your loss. thats a heavy one to bare.

[madaboutthe30]

Sorry to hear that mate, its quite touching- I dont know any better reason to get a tattoo though

[OBs]

I did notice your signature tribute a while ago.

I couldn't imagining how hard something like that would be, its certainly something I hope me or loved ones around me would never have to deal with.

Its something that really annoys me when having Children is taken for granted, I wish you both all the best and hope you don't give up trying.

Andy

[P2YCHO]

Sorry to hear of your loss mate, really feel for you both. Must be so difficult and only time will begin to heal the pain felt. The tats fantasic though, really cleaver and so significant as others have said. I'm thinking of getting a tribute tat and after reading this thread i'm convinced it's the right thing to do... Feel so bad for you but just wanted to say my bit, your a legend mate... I expect its helped a lot now you've spoken about it and recieved these messages in return,
Take care Neil
Dan

[bss325i]

I have a 13 month old son who is the most precious thing in mine and my girlfriends life. She gets upset sometimes just at the thought of anything happening to him, i cant even begin to imagine the pain you have felt.

Our thoughts are with you.

[Rosc0PColtrane]

Sorry to hear of your loss. An lovely way to commemorate your loved one. Thoughts are with you

[eko]

Me and my partner went through a similar thing years ago.
Our world was shattered.
We now have two gorgeous kids who we both cherish.
We both send you our best wishes.
Be strong

[oi_oi_savaloy]

Pamela and I would like to pass our condolences on to you and your wife too. Although we've never met (and probably, unfortunately, never will) your post has really touched us.

It's no help I expect but time is a great healer and perhaps, in time, you might be able to try for another baby; not to replace Nathan but simply to have another child.

Good luck sir.

Rhydian (oi_oi_savaloy).

[Cook318IS]

im so sorry to hear this but as said before, no better reason to get a tattoo and i wish you all the best.

Paul

[Felix79]

I heart goes ot to you both for the incredable pain you have suffered.

[d6dph]

This is why I love this place. For all the crap that goes on here, the community spirit is still great.

[skh]

Our thoughts and prayers are with you both at your sad loss. We too did suffer same many years ago but was later blessed with R'Olivia and truely hope, God bless, that you two will have children in future.

[Weezie]

What a sad loss, I wont pretend to imagine what you are going though, prayers to your little one.

The tatt looks simply divine.. a wonderful tribute.

[robbo86]

Nice tattoo, i figured something had happened from your little banner pic.

My thoughts are with you, its one thing that scares me the most about having children.

[georgen]

I can't imagine how it must feel. Thoughts and prayres are with you both.